On May 6, 2019, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry became parents for the first time – the couple had a son, whom they named Archie. This year, as it turned out, the Dukes of Sussex were preparing for the birth of their second baby, but the former actress had a miscarriage. 39-year-old Markle herself spoke about this in an essay, which was published by The New York Times.
Megan revealed that she lost her baby this summer. Her day began as usual: she cooked breakfast, fed the dog, took vitamins, changed her son’s diaper, and then felt a cramp.
I fell to the floor with my son in my arms, singing a lullaby to calm us both. Holding my child to me, I realized that I was losing the second. Several hours later, I was lying in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt his sticky hand and kissed his fingers, wet with our tears. I stared at the cold white walls and my eyes just glazed over. I tried to imagine how we will recover from this.
I remembered one-moment last year when Harry and I were finishing a long tour of South Africa. I was completely exhausted. I was breastfeeding our young son and trying to keep calm in the eyes of the public. “Are you okay?” The journalist asked me. I answered him honestly, not knowing that my words would resonate with so many people – young mothers, those who are older, and everyone who suffered in their own way in silence. My unprepared response seemed to permit people to speak the truth. But what helped me the most was not an honest answer, but the question itself. “Thanks for asking. Not many people asked if I was okay,” I said.
As I sat in my hospital bed and watched my husband’s heartbreak as he tried to piece me together, I realized that the only way to start healing was first to ask, “Are you okay?” – she wrote.
Megan also said that it is not customary to talk about the loss of a child out loud, since it is considered shameful to talk about it, which, in her opinion, is wrong.
The loss of a child means almost unbearable grief, which many experiences, but which few talk about. Until now, talking about it remains a taboo, riddled with unfounded shame, says Megan.