Gwyneth Paltrow has written an essay for the new issue of British Vogue magazine and in it spoke in detail about her ex-husband Chris Martin, divorce from him, and much more.
My ex and I have always been friends. We laughed at the same things, shared impressions, jokes, and all sorts of nonsense. We are attracted by the same qualities in music: beautiful chords, harmony, new ideas. Peter Gabriel, Chopin, Sigur Rós – although I listened to them with pleasure, and he seemed to be preparing for an exam. We loved walking to Osteria Basilico and back through the park for pizza, especially on those British summer nights when the sun never seems to set. We loved trips to the New Forest or the coast. But most of all we loved our children,
– said Gwyneth.
The actress also mentioned a “deliberate breakup,” which the ex-spouses checked for one year before announcing their split:
When we decided to approach our division in this way, about a year before we told it to the world, we decided to try the idea. There were good moments, there were terrible ones. There were days when we could not stand each other, but forced ourselves to remember what we were striving for. Find the strength to smile, hug, and invite the children to brunch. We moved to Los Angeles and more changes began. Looking back, I understand that this was probably the most difficult year of my life. I felt that I was being ruled by fear. I was worried about how my children are integrating into a new life, a new school, a new family structure. Worried that the world would know that we were no longer together before we were ready to tell it ourselves. And how can I say this?
Finally, Gwyneth said:
It’s okay to keep loving the part of your ex that you’ve always had a crush on. In fact, it is thanks to this that you can consciously part. Love these parts. They still exist and can still make you feel the way you felt about this person. Instead of isolating yourself from them, immerse yourself in the unfamiliarity of these feelings and explore them. We lose all the nuances of life when we define it as good or bad.